Why I’ve Always Asked “Why”

A personal reflection by Lizzy — founder of Aegina Healing

Since I was very young, I’ve often wondered why we have to go through so much trouble here on earth between birth and death. Why life can feel so heavy at times — filled with challenges, heartbreaks, and lessons.

For a long time, that question came from self-pity. I felt that life was unfair. Later, it turned into anger — because I still didn’t understand the why. Why did I have to go through so much hardship? Had I done something wrong?

It wasn’t until 2015 that the puzzle of life began to make sense. That’s when my intensive spiritual journey began — and the blame I carried slowly transformed into understanding. When the pendulum entered my life, everything changed. It became the tool that turned my “why me?” into clarity — the key that helped me see the invisible connections between experiences, emotions, and energy.

The search for meaning

As a child, I remember feeling deeply frustrated whenever my parents answered my “why” with “because I said so.” It never satisfied me — I wasn’t looking for authority; I was looking for understanding. I wanted real reasons — explanations that made sense to both the heart and the mind.

That longing to understand “why” stayed with me all my life. Through every challenge — heartbreak, loss, uncertainty — I kept asking the same question. And what I discovered is that life always answers, just not in the way the mind expects. Sometimes the answer comes through emotion, sometimes through silence, and sometimes through a pendulum gently moving in my hand.

Over time, I learned that every event has a purpose. We come to this earth because our souls choose to experience what we experience — even when it’s painful or intense. There is always a why — although it sometimes makes no sense, seems unfair, or even cruel. Each experience makes us richer, stronger, and more compassionate. And as we grow through what we’ve lived, we often become guides for others — showing the way through the very darkness we once had to face ourselves.

When we stop asking why, we stop growing. But when we dare to ask, life begins to reveal its wisdom.

The detective of the soul

In my sessions, I often describe myself as a gentle detective — not only analysing, but also tuning in to what comes from above. With the pendulum and my charts, I look for old behavior patterns and emotions that people still carry — traces of the past that quietly drain their energy and often influence their current behavior. The pendulum is able to make the invisible visible.

It’s all connected — a chain of experiences, beliefs, and reactions. My work is to find the root of that chain, to see where it began and what it’s still connected to today.

I look for the deeper pattern — why someone is stuck, why they feel exhausted, why they keep running into the same obstacles, and where they are losing their energy. And the pendulum guides what truly needs to be addressed. It connects directly with the soul, bypassing the brain and the ego — which in most cases want to focus on something else. That’s what makes this method so effective: it goes straight to the essence of what is ready to be seen and released.

Another part of my gift is the ability to turn complexity into simplicity — to take everything that feels confusing or overwhelming and translate it into clear, grounded understanding. When people see their patterns in this simple, truthful way, they often experience instant relief. Clarity begins to unfold in a matter of moments.

Each subtle movement of the pendulum is like a clue — a whisper from the soul pointing to what wants to be acknowledged. When we understand where something originated, the energy softens, and healing begins to unfold naturally. Things click even more when I show a way for people to experience that they already have all the answers inside.

Why questioning matters now

In today’s world, many people have forgotten how to ask why. We’re told not to question too much, not to complain, not to compare — because someone else surely has it worse. So we stay quiet, accepting life as it is, even when something inside us feels off.

And when people do ask questions — especially critical ones — they are often labelled, cancelled, or even fined. We’re living in an upside-down world where independent thinking is treated as a threat instead of a strength.

Many believe they have no options, or that their personality “just is what it is.” But much of what we call personality was built as a survival mechanism when we were young — a way to cope, to stay safe, to belong. And because those patterns once protected us, we keep them long after they’ve stopped serving us.

When we no longer ask why, we stay trapped inside an identity that isn’t truly ours. We forget that change is possible. We forget that clarity begins with curiosity.

That’s why asking why is sacred — it’s an act of self-respect. It means you’re ready to understand yourself, rather than just survive yourself.

Clarity as a way of life

Living with curiosity and openness creates clarity. Clarity doesn’t mean having all the answers — it means trusting that life is guiding you, even when you can’t yet see the full picture.

That’s what my work is about: helping people rediscover the deeper reasons behind their experiences, to reconnect with meaning, and to see their own journey with empathic and truthful understanding. This process takes time — sometimes it feels like a gentle grieving process, where each insight allows another layer of the old to fall away.

Because every why we explore together brings you closer to your real self.

Clarity as a way of life

Living with curiosity and openness creates clarity. Clarity doesn’t mean having all the answers — it means trusting that life is guiding you, even when you can’t yet see the full picture.

That’s what my work is about: helping people rediscover the deeper reasons behind their experiences, to reconnect with meaning, and to see their own journey with empathic and truthful understanding. This process takes time — sometimes it feels like a gentle grieving process, where each insight allows another layer of the old to fall away.

Because every why we explore together brings you closer to your real self.

Photo taken on the Nile near Luxor, Egypt